As you can see by the title of this post, this is a hot topic! I must admit that I was not aware of false prophetess Ellen G. White’s teaching on marital excess in the marital sexual relationship. It wasn’t until I began researching Ellen G. White in detail that I learned of some of her more bizarre teachings, and the true reasons behind staple teachings in Adventism.
This post will cover what Ellen White says about sex in marriage, and what the Bible says as well. This post will contain excerpts from White’s writings in ‘Adventist Home.’ As always, please go back and read the entire sections in context. If you do, this topic will be quite alarming [and laughable] at times.
We will start with what Ellen White says, and end on the Word of the Most High. I hope you have your Bible ready. If not, I provide links for you to read the verses online. ‘Adventist Home’ readings can be found online through the White Estate’s website.
Speaking of husbands and wives, Ellen White writes the following in ‘Adventist Home:’
They have united themselves in marriage to the object of their choice and, therefore, reason that marriage sanctifies the indulgence of the baser passions. Even men and women professing godliness give loose rein to their lustful passions and have no thought that God holds them accountable for the expenditure of vital energy, which weakens their hold on life and enervates the entire system. [Adventist Home, p. 122]
Let the Christian wife refrain, both in word and act, from exciting the animal passions of her husband. Many have no strength at all to waste in this direction. From their youth up they have weakened the brain and sapped the constitution by the gratification of animal passions. Self-denial and temperance should be the watchword in their married life. [Adventist Home, p. 123]
What is the result of giving loose rein to the lower passions? … The bedchamber, where angels of God should preside, is made unholy by unholy practices. And because shameful animalism rules, bodies are corrupted; loathsome practices lead to loathsome diseases. That which God has given as a blessing is made a curse. [Adventist Home, p. 124]
Sexual excess will effectually destroy a love for devotional exercises, will take from the brain the substance needed to nourish the system, and will most effectively exhaust the vitality. No woman should aid her husband in this work of self-destruction. She will not do it if she is enlightened and has true love for him. [Adventist Home, p. 124]
The more the animal passions are indulged, the stronger do they become, and the more violent will be their clamors for indulgence. Let God-fearing men and women awake to their duty. Many professed Christians are suffering with paralysis of nerve and brain because of their intemperance in this direction. [Adventist Home, p. 124]
It appears, through White’s writings, that she is admonishing Adventist married couples not to have sex ‘too much’ or in ‘excess’ with each other. White never defines excess. Is that on time per week, two times per month? White herself, mothered four children! So the answer is unclear.
White also writes to Adventist women that they should not tempt or be a temptation to their husbands in a way that would allow the husband to fulfill his sexual desires with his wife. She equates this to a sin when she writes that the couple will have to give an account before God of their marital sexual relationship for “the expenditure of vital energy!”
Laughable isn’t it! I wonder where she read that in her Bible?! [sarcasm] The answer: she didn’t! Even Paul writes that it is better to marry than to burn!
1 Corinthians 7:9: But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
Suffering from paralysis of the nerve and brain, loathsome diseases?! Was she serious? Moving on…
Let’s start in Genesis shall we!
Genesis 1:28: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Proverbs 5:19: Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Matthew 19:5-6: And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
1 Corinthians 7:4-5: The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 7:32-34: But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Hebrews 13:4: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Ellen White has made the mistake of writing about married couples as if they were single. Her writings on this subject also show that she was unfamiliar and not divinely connected to both the physical and spiritual role that sex plays in a marital relationship.
Paul writes that there is a clear difference between a married and an unmarried man and woman. A single woman concerns herself with the things of the Most High. Paul is not saying that married women do not do this. He is simply saying that when one marries, the paradigm shifts. The married woman concerns herself with how she can please her husband! It is the same for the man!
We even see that reinforced in the Torah, or the instructions, that the Most High made Moses was the custodian of! For a newly married couple, the husband could not be ‘charged with any business.’ He was to say home for an entire year and make his wife happy!
Deuteronomy 24:5: When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
False Prophet Ellen White also writes a that wives should not tempt their husbands into what she equates to a sin – marital excess [too much sex]. In all honesty, this will lead to adultery and infidelity in marriage! This is why Paul writes:
1 Corinthians 7:1-2: Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Please go back and read what the Bible says about this subject, including the entire chapter of 1 Corinthians 7.
Acts 5:29: Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.
Joshua 24:15: “…[As] for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
Grow in Grace and Knowledge!